Control

People always need some sort of control in their life. Control can be unhealthy or healthy. When people try or succeed in controlling something in your life. Control can be unhealthy or healthy. When people try or succeed in controlling someone else that lasts for so long and is mean and selfish. Controlling what someone does or says isn’t right the same with controlling who they associate with. This control is not right or healthy for anyone some people choose to be controlled by someone else and that’s not healthy either unless it’s related to ‘behind closed door activities’. That’s called low self-esteem. The ones that want to be controlled by someone else mean they choose not to or don’t know how to make decisions for themselves. They don’t know or choose not to speak for themselves so they get someone else to speak for them. When it comes to someone that enjoys controlling other lives in some way or another usually are insecure within them and cover it up by focusing and putting it on someone else. Both of these unhealthy ways of control can be changed.

Taking control or allowing someone to control your life usually happens when they feel they have no other form of control in their lives. People that have been instutionalized, abused, abandoned, stepped on and so on usually end up becoming one of the two. The fact that they had limited control in their lives some people turn to eating disorders addictions, using and manipulating others (mostly the opposite sex). Some people play head games, run away from people that mean something special to them so they don’t hurt first, so they hurt others first. This happens because somewhere in their past life, they were hurt by people that they may have gotten close to. Now they stay alert when they are getting close to someone and they leave first. People who grew up in unhealthy situations, environments learn and create unhealthy control behaviours.

You choose who you want to be in life. What you say and do are forms of control